Women, watch out for kbaemt , who lives in Shirley.. he is a narcissistic fool, who will seduce you at first like a gentleman, and be on his best behavior, then the minute you have a mind of your own and find any of the slightest fault with him, he will pull a 180.. defensiveness.. invalidation, stonewalling, you name it.. he is a good actor though, be careful.. but is ultimately a selfish manipulator.. good luck !